Tired of the back of your empathy?
Just the bowl to make you walk on it?
Today, we talk about self-respect and how to restore it without denying one’s sensitivity.
When to understand the other ends up costing you too much
Understanding the other to the point of forgetting yourself… it’s the trap of the empaths.
When we are hypersensitive and empathic, we already explore our own inner mechanisms… and we end up understanding those of others, even when they do not express them.
Add a dose of intuition: the other becomes an open book.
Super power? Yes. Yes.
Reverse? Too much understanding can harm self-respect and make you accept harmful behaviors.
Too much understanding the other? And you, who respects you?
Imagine: you are in a relationship with someone — in love, friendly, family or professional.
This person has injuries, like everyone else.
Your empathy and hypersensitivity allow you to understand its mechanisms for a long time.
So what happens when this person projects their wounds on you and acts disrespectfully?
Version 1: “The suffering”
Too much respect for the other person kills respect for themselves
- The person does not respect you.
- The other’s wounds reactivate yours.
- You suffer, and you let it go under the guise of understanding.
And you know very well what I’m talking about…
Stop the one-sense empathy!
Version 2 : “The in-between shores”
You are less activated, but you are fooling yourself on respect
- Same person, same behavior.
- Your wounds are calm and you look at the other with compassion:
“The poor guy, I’ve been through this, I know it’s painful. »
You put it in perspective: “It’s not very serious, I’m above that.”
The result: respect is still not there!
We stop suffering for the wounds of others!
Version 3: “The best of” 
Understand without letting it go: your limits are set!
- You understand how the other person works.
- You are compassionate, but you set your limits.
- You protect your humanity and honor your space.
